When did I stop existing???

This is question I ponder on quite a regular basis. Does becoming a wife come secretly with a CTR+A  Delete button, where everything that makes you tick is erased and your sole purpose in life is to become the person your husband wants/needs you to be.

What happens to the characteristics that make you you? Are they shelved to collect dust for all eternity, replaced with this new and 'improved' version. 

Why do you all of a sudden feel guilty for doing something that you really love (but doesn't contribute to the daily running of the household) instead of making sure everything is ready and running smoothly in your husbands life?

Here is the quick snapshot of my story:

I will be turning 31 in a couple of days.

I had my first serious boyfriend from 16-18.

I met my husband at 18 (he was 21 at the time)

I got married at 23 after 5 years of dating.

At 25 we started trying for a baby.

At 27 after much drama my 'angel' daughter Grace was born.

My career path has been in Human Resources.

So now you know the important bits. I told you about my work to give you an idea about my intelligence level. Just in case some of you are already thinking I might be slightly crazy. Believe me, I most certainly have those moments. Sometimes I think, if the Kardashian camera crew was in my house filming my day, it would look like a reality show based in a lunatic asylum.  That being said, most days when everyone is keeping their inner diva at bay, it is a nice quiet, well functioning household.......except (and back to my original question)  why did I stop existing?

Don't get me wrong I fully appreciate that marriage is the union of two individuals, becoming one, both making sacrifices and compromises to ensure a happy peaceful environment..BUT and yes it is a big but; I can't help but believe that most of the compromise and sacrifice is coming from the female side. Of course men sacrifice acting on their urge to sow their seeds, and spending too much time with their mates at the local watering hole. Alright, I am sure there are more things, but that would be working against my argument. 

I ponder as to the reason behind this lob sided deal. Is it because of some expectation that society has formed and taught us over time? Is it our mothers and grandmothers who tell us that "He is the man, you have to let him be in charge" and "Men need to feel like they are the boss" etc. Obviously there are many influencers here, and with the feminist movement making its slow hike up the mountain that is male rulership we shall once again regain our rightful place in our equal in size throne next to our husbands. In the meantime I will continue trying to 'retrieve and restore' the deleted data!